How do I write my wedding vows?

How do I write my wedding vows, is one of the most popular questions I get asked. It is a good question and everyone has their own way of writing their vows. Remember your ceremony is a reflection of your individual personality.

While it might seem daunting, there is something so unbelievably powerful about saying words that you’ve personally have written. So you first sit down to craft these magnificent wedding vows, it is not surprising that you get writers block. But don’t worry you do not need to be great at english, a writer or an author you just need to be you.

Like I said everyone is their own individual thus there is a number of ways you can write your wedding vows:Firstly talk to your fiancé and your marriage celebrant about your options. They will be able to assist and guide you in the right direction. You also want to make sure you are both comfortable and on the same page.

Decide together how you want to write your vows – You want your vows to reflect your unique personality; after all, that’s why you’re writing them yourself. But this is ultimately a celebration of who you are as a couple, so you’ll want to make sure you approach your vows from a similar mindset. You can go humorous, serious, romantic, sentimental—whatever feels right to you both. You should also agree on a general length (I recommend one to two minutes each).

Jot down notes about your relationship. Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and why you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Reflect about things like what makes you laugh about each other, what you’ve supported each other through, what you have accomplished together, what you respect most about your fiancé, how your life has gotten better since meeting your fiancé, what inspires you about your fiancé, what you miss most about them when you’re apart etc.

If I am your marriage celebrant I provide you with a wedding vows worksheet to help your writers block and reflect on your relationship and why you are here today! For example, think about what is the single greatest thing about the person you are about to marry?

Finished note taking? Now it’s time to reflect on the words you wrote, and highlight passages that you might want to include in your wedding vows. Include the best material into your wedding vows that reflects your personality and what you adore, makes you laugh and what makes you know you never want to spend a single day without your fiancé.

Make some promises– The crux of wedding vows are the promises you’re making to one another as husband and wife. You can pull directly from those traditional “I do” recitations, include them after you’ve delivered your own vows, or make your promises completely unique to you. Remember these promises are what cement your commitment to one another, so pick one, two, or several to deliver and commit to. These can be serious and broad (“I promise to love you every day of our lives together.”) or specific to your unique relationship (“I vow to always let you have the last bowl of cocoa pops.”).

Write your first draft – with your spare time. You have your notes, you have your promises—you’re ready to start putting them all together. You can review the structure of writing your wedding vows in my wedding vows worksheet. Try yo get to writing this draft early—you don’t want the added stress of last-minute vow writing. Aim to have your vows written at least two weeks before your wedding to give yourself ample time to practice.

For couples who want to keep it simple! One of the simplest methods of writing your own vows is, writing down three promises; two serious and one humorous or visa versa.

For other couples who like to write, I recommend one to two paragraphs highlighting the vows you would like your fiancé to feel including your promises as husband or wife.

Lastly, read your wedding vows out loud to a trusted friend, marriage celebrant or family member. Ideally, this person will be someone who is a good writer, and someone who knows your relationship. They may have good suggestions for you, or the simple act of reading it out loud might help you identify if what you have written flows.

Not sure where to begin, contact me I am here to help.