The groom prep is equally important
There are countless ways grooms can get involved in wedding planning. The big ones are no surprise: getting his suit fitted, writing his vows, and helping pick a first-dance song, to name a few. Smaller gestures—like leaving notes for his bride or taking her out for dancing lessons—are less established but make a big difference too!
1. Pick a suit that suits the wedding style. “The most important thing for a couple to consider when planning their wedding attire is the style and feel of the wedding,” I say. “For a traditional, more formal event, a classic tuxedo with a notch, shawl, or peak lapel is ideal. Slim-fit silhouettes have been most popular lately. For a less traditional option, shades of grey are hugely popular. Destination or beach weddings call for a lighter grey, tan, or even jacket-less tuxedo.”
2. Accessorises! Put the finishing touches on your look with a buttonhole to match the bride bouquet, a perfectly folded pocket handkerchief or fun socks for an extra pop of colour, I say. Accessories make all the difference!
3. Planning Out the Guest List With the Bride: In addition to providing a list of the friends and family you want at the wedding, it would be nice to track down all of your own family and friends’ addresses to give to your bride to be to send out invites if you are not.
4. Get a haircut, but not the day before. If the trim is too close, this will leave time to let it grow out.
5. Schedule a cleaning service. You wife to be will love you for this, trust me! Hire a cleaner for the week of your wedding and for the duration of your honeymoon. Your house or apartment will look impeccable when things get busy, and it’ll be so nice to come back to a clean home when your honeymoon is over.
6. Go out dancing. Whether it’s going out to a pub, bar or just having a nice dinner at home with the first-dance music ready to go, schedule an excuse to practice that choreographed first dance! It gives you a time to connect and also find some fun in the planning.
7. Plan something special for your bride for the wedding day. It doesn’t have to be lavish—or even anything you spend a lot of money on—but something thoughtful like a letter and champagne will help make a special day even more magical. Just make sure the delivery arrives at the perfect time of the morning.
8. Say “I love you”—often. Leave little notes everywhere. Post-its, chalkboard doodles, slips of paper under fridge magnets. This is the time to be romantic (and, yes, even cheesy)!
9. Work on your vows. Vows are the promises you are making as husband and wife; use your personality and take a stab at writing something you! And if the vows are already done, you do not need to remember them but it is nice to practice them.
10. Stay on top of the rehearsal. Check in with the officiant and make sure both sets of parents and all wedding-party members know when and where to show up. Taking the whole party off her plate is a huge gesture and will greatly reduce her stress.
